Let’s honor our body and its energy as a sacred expression of our vitality, let pleasure guide us to peace and presence.
Opening
Close your eyes, and take slow, deep breaths. Let your body relax. Breathe deeply and steadily. Feel the rise and fall of your breath, bringing your awareness inward. Notice any sensations in your body without judgment. Stay present with whatever arises. Let’s explore pleasure slowly, above the shoulders, staying aware of our breath and sensations. Imagine with your touch, it opening energy channels, naturally and without a goal. Let’s move below the shoulders to the nipples, imagine our touch activating the heart chakra, enhancing emotional connection and intimacy, heightening physical pleasure by linking our sensual sensations with feelings of vulnerability and trust, creating a deeper, more fulfilling experience through the circulation of heart energy. Let’s move to the pelvic region. Visualize energy moving up your spine with each inhale and down your body with each exhale, grounding you. Let’s help wake it up with contractions to the perineum. Open your eyes, slow down, breathe deeply. Open your eyes when ready, staying mindful and calm.
Masturbation is meditation
We’re going to consider masturbation as meditation. We bring our awareness to be a goal instead of cumming. This is something that Joel Benjamin does with his deep stroke sequence during his circle work and edging workshops. It’s a masturbation series that consists of 12 techniques. It’s considered like a meditation because we focus on the sensations, breath, and energy flow rather than a goal – cumming.
How we do that is we incorporate our non dominant hand into stroking and we work on techniques that may feel good but won’t make us release. In this practice we’re going to actively keep our arousal levels at around a 5 or 6 on a scale of 10. We want ourselves to elongate, swell and harden, but we don’t want ourselves to heat, feel qi building up.
Once the strokes are introduced, we play for 15-20 seconds on each stroke and then change it up.
1. Compression. Base, mid shaft, head. Each zone gets a squeeze and anoint the cock, look at it and take it in.
2. Milking – Fisting just the head
3. Catapult – Grip the base, angle, slide and release
4. Corkscrew – overhand grip and twisting, begin incorporating the non dominant hand
5. Hand over hand, two hands – a.) firm grip coming up and b.) looser grip coming down
6. Cock cradling, non dominant hand slides on bush, dominant hand from above. Hands slide in opposite directions.
7. Crowning – head with fingertips
8. Juicing – fingertips to the bottom of shaft
9. Rope shake – make a loose cage and vibrate cock, accesses the deep part
10. Double stack – first make a twist and then do up stroke, firm grip on the way up
11. Firestarter – friction at the base to the top of the head, cycle up and down
12. Double-handed grip, interlace fingers. Firm grip up.
If we masturbate with our non-dominant hand, it feels different and it’s helpful to stimulate less-used nerves and pathways, potentially enhancing arousal in a different way. This practice is rooted in the concept of neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to rewire itself based on new experiences. By engaging the non-dominant hand, we heighten sensitivity, and potentially help break patterns associated with habitual stimulation.