Today let’s explore slowness—not as an idea, but as something we feel in our bodies. As we practice, I invite you to move slowly and really notice the sensations that arise instead of rushing past them.
We usually treat orgasm the same way: the moment pleasure builds, we speed up, chasing the finish line and the relaxation that follows. But what happens if we don’t rush? What if we let that energy rise, circulate, and expand instead of releasing it all at once?
This is the essence of semen retention, a practice with deep roots. In Taoist and Hindu traditions going back over a thousand years, sexual energy was seen as life force that could be cultivated and refined rather than spent. Ejaculation wasn’t forbidden; it simply wasn’t the goal.
In the 19th century, the Oneida Community in America took a similar approach. This polyamorous Christian group believed men could love multiple women without constant pregnancies by learning to enjoy sex without ejaculating—a technique they called “male continence.”
Today many people in the West are rediscovering this, not as repression, but as a conscious choice. It’s not about never ejaculating; it’s about ejaculating deliberately—some even choose to release only on full moons, syncing with natural rhythms.
So as we move through today’s practice, let’s slow everything down: the breath, the movement, the rising energy. Let’s stay present with sensation instead of racing toward an end point.
Quick Sensual Slow-Energy Meditation
(For men in reclined butterfly pose – soles of the feet together, knees open, a firm block or bolster resting right on the lower belly/pelvis to create gentle, constant pressure)
Settle back. Let the block press softly into your lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone. That steady weight is your anchor tonight.
Take a slow breath in through the nose… and let it fall out through a slightly open mouth.
Now feel the warmth of your own thighs against each other, the stretch along the inner groins, the way your low back melts into the earth. Nothing to do. Nowhere to go.
Bring your attention to the place where the block meets your body. Imagine that every inhale draws soft golden heat into that spot… and every exhale lets that heat spread downward, pooling behind your balls, seeping into the root of your cock, thick and heavy and deliciously alive.
Don’t chase anything. Just watch how the energy thickens with each breath. Notice the subtle pulses, the gentle swelling. Let it build. Let it be enough.
Breathe in… feel the warmth rise a little higher into your belly.
Breathe out… feel it sink even deeper between your legs.
Stay here for five slow minutes—or twenty.
The longer you rest in this slow, heavy pleasure without demanding release, the more the energy refines itself, traveling up your spine, blooming behind your eyes, softening your jaw, opening your chest.
Remove the block slowly, roll to one side, and lie there for a moment. Carry this quiet, potent fullness with you into the rest of your night.